Posted by: Cheryl Healey on: June 3, 2012
Family Harmony with Sensitive Children – A Holistic Model for ADHD Wellness is now on Kindle and will soon be available in paperback.
In this groundbreaking and inspirational book you will find state of the art information about the cause and solutions for the symptoms of ADHD. The author shared these findings in previous publications before similar data appeared in the Autism Science Digest. If you are tired of the same old story about ADHD, then this book is definitely for you.
The author has brilliantly synthesized scientific, political, societal, neurologic, psychological, spiritual and holistic information from a myriad of resources including her own background training and experience to present to you and your family the formula for ADHD wellness and family harmony. Together we can help children be the gift they came here to be – naturally!
Cheryl Healey is The Sensitive Child Advocate and an ADHD Solutions Expert. She is one of the children she is here to help. As a Certified Natural Health Professional and Life Coach with psychic abilities, the author has successfully healed many of her own symptoms and conditions naturally. Cheryl helps people just like you discover the cause of issues and the roadmap to healing body, mind and spirit naturally so you can create the harmony you desire.
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Enjoy infinite Blessings!
Posted by: Cheryl Healey on: April 20, 2012
“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” – Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
I have always loved that quote. Have you ever had a project about which you felt passionately guided by your heart and intuition to do, yet for some reason you felt afraid to begin? On some level, perhaps even unconsciously, you were already worrying about the end result or how you would deal with the 19th and 20th steps? You haven’t even started it yet!
What I have learned is that the first step is the most difficult. Once you take the first step, the next step is shown to you – and then the next, and the next and so on. Your awareness, knowledge and understanding are at a particular level when you are guided to do step one. Once you complete it, you will gain greater awareness and learn more. The Universe will have changed somewhat because of your action and the actions of others. The field, if you are into quantum physics, will have shifted so that new possibilities are available to you after taking that first step.
Think of Indiana Jones in “Raiders of the Lost Ark”. When Indiana was going into the first temple to get the gold statue, he had to look around, intuitively scope out his options, and take a step. Then, being in a new location, he was able to look around and see new things from that vantage point that he would not have seen from his previous location. This is a great metaphor for Dr. King’s quote about taking the first step.
Life isn’t always as treacherous as the path Indiana Jones took in that temple, but to our unconscious mind, taking that first step may feel like it. We humans feel most at ease staying in our comfort zone. Moving out of our comfort zone is often where our intuition guides us to go for personal growth. Personal growth may have an element of healing emotional issues we have stored within us. We may or may not consciously be aware of what needs to be healed internally. We may only view it as what feels uncomfortable versus comfortable.
Procrastination and addiction are great ways to avoid personal growth or “taking the first step.” When your intuition guides you to tackle a project or grow in some particular area of your life and you procrastinate by watching TV, eating, shopping, drinking, claiming not to have enough time, or whatever your excuse may be not to follow the call of your Soul, there is typically a fear or unforgiveness issue inside of you calling to be healed. We will always attract to us that which will help us heal. Spirit knocks lightly the first time. If we don’t listen, the knock becomes louder and continually more persistent in order to get our attention. Our intuition will always offer us the most grace-filled path to our intentions. Our job is to listen with faith and act on our guidance.
I recently saw Bishop T. D. Jakes on Oprah’s Next Chapter. He told the story of the miracle Jesus performed by turning water into wine and creating enough food for guests at a wedding when there was lack. I will paraphrase what Bishop Jakes said: “Jesus blessed and broke the bread…Jesus blessed what was not enough…The blessing is in the breaking.”
In meditation a few years ago I heard “be grateful for what you have and I will give you more.” At that time, I was in the middle of too much fear-based thinking and believed appearances to be concrete rather than flowing. There was an unconscious wound that needed to be healed before I would be able to focus on the good in my life and be grateful for what appeared not to be enough. Everyone around me was focused on the idea of lack also. One’s environment is a very powerful influence unless one is very strong and able to overcome personal and collective limiting beliefs.
When Bishop Jakes said “the blessing is in the breaking”, I believe he meant that we grow stronger through both adversity and sharing.
Spirit, God, whatever name you give to your creative source, wants us all to be happy, feel loved and break free of the fear of following our guidance and being authentic. Our intuition is the voice of Love telling us the grace-filled road to our intentions. When we have fear-based wounds and beliefs running the show unconsciously, we may be unable to hear or fear to follow intuition. God wants all of us to be free of fear of lack and limitation so we can be “like” Jesus who said that all of this I do, so can you and more.
Have you heard the phrase “go with the flow”? I have come to believe it means you cannot push the stream of life – your particular journey. However, you must keep up with it so the undertow does not drag you down. Intuition helps us keep up gracefully with the stream of life. Addictions and other avoidance behaviors are part of the undertow. Trust your intuition, seek help if you need it and know God Loves you more than you can imagine. In the stream of life, hurry is a mask for fear but procrastination needs to be examined. In meditation, ask: “Is the timing right for _______?” Or ask: “Am I just stalling?” If you get a yes, ask why you are stalling. Keep asking questions until you get a very specific bottom-line answer and nothing as general as “fear”. Fear of what? This process takes bravery and you must be ready to hear the answer rather than block it. When you are ready, the answers will come.
When you follow your intuition which is your direct connection to God, this means breaking free of the appearance of fear or lack in whatever form looks to be real outside of you. You as an infinite being created by God cannot fear or lack. Only your belief in fear or lack can stop you from the gifts God has for you.
Having been brought up Catholic (but now Spiritual), I was told from a very young age that there is an Angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other shoulder. They are both always whispering in our ears and we need to know the difference between the two and follow the voice of the Angel. Those voices are not outside of us. The Angel and the devil are not beings outside of us. Although they can appear that way through projection.
Modern science has proven that we are all energy which is made up of atoms. Atoms consist of positive, negative and neutral energy – protons, electrons and neutrons respectively. We are hard-wired with positive, negative and neutral aspects within us. The journey of life is meant for us to realize we are Love and give up the struggle and search outside of ourselves for it. When we finally get this, nothing anyone else says or does can shake this knowing. It’s like the line from the Led Zeppelin song “Stairway to Heaven”: “When all are one and one is all. To be a rock and not to roll.” When we are whole inside, we view everything as part of the whole of God. We are all One, inside and out with neutral, negative and positive aspects available to us while here on Earth.
Albert Einstein has a great quote that speaks to unity of the beliefs of which I write. “Science without religion is lame, religion without science is blind.” Science, religions and spirituality teach the same things using different words. There is no difference at the core of all the messages. Ernest Holmes created the Church of Religious Science (Science of Mind) by combining all the like messages from all the religious texts. He found the same message threaded throughout all religions and created a unified view. God is all there is and modern science has proven this using the word Energy.
I highly recommend the book “Dying To Be Me” by Anita Moorjani. In it she tells of her near-death experience where she became aware of the Love that exists in and around us all. That love is here now. All of us are made of that Love. It can be likened to The Matrix Revolutions movie. At the end when Neo is looking at the machine city through his third eye, all he can see is Light. When we look at life and other people through our human eyes, the view must go through our personal human filters of our neutral, positive and negative beliefs and judgments. When we look through our heart or our third eye, we see it as all Love. It is all God in another form waiting for us to become aware of it as an aspect of the light of God. The blessing is in the breaking free and realizing God is all there is and everything is a gift.
If something or someone resides on a different level of awareness with which you do not resonate, it is your responsibility to choose differently. That is what free will is all about. When we exercise our free will, unless we are a little child and unable to do so, we are free to choose. Freedom of choice prevents a victim mentality. It is a victim mentality that leads to fear and lack. How can an infinite being of Light created by God and given free will to choose thoughts, feelings and actions ever be a victim unless they are taught to be so and believe it? If you are stuck in a victim mentality, please seek help.
Spirit is always trying to heal the wounded aspects of self. When we are hurt, we have a choice to find the gift in it and let it go or hold onto it. If we hold onto it, it resides in our energy body where it will attract more of the same until we choose to heal it and let it go. Viewing it from a victim mentality causes one to think “why does this always happen to me?” Our ever-expanding Soul is a joy-filled loving being. It does not wish, nor does God wish for us to suffer. Only we humans are taught that we deserve to suffer. This is not true. When we are happy, God is happy.
When Bishop Jakes said the blessing is in the breaking, he said a lot. When we listen to the voice of Spirit within, we will be shown the quickest way to heal. When we are grateful for what does not appear to be enough, we tell God we are ready for more good in our life. Even if what is currently in your life does not feel good, to be grateful anyway is the act of faith. Faith is always rewarded. Once planted, does an acorn worry that it will not become an oak tree? Does a mustard seed worry that it will not grow?
If you do not have faith (belief in the unseen), do not follow guidance from Spirit, do not keep moving with the flow of life, life will bless you with a “breaking” at some point. This breaking down of an aspect of the ego is only necessary when we refuse to follow the voice of our intuition or our inner Angel. Spirit tries to get our attention gently so our journey can be graceful, but if we keep putting off taking that first step; Spirit will find a way to eventually have us see the need to move forward.
As Bishop Jakes said, the blessing is in the breaking. Do what Jesus did and be grateful for what may not appear yet to be enough, and take whatever step Spirit guides you to take. You won’t be shown the whole staircase until your awareness grows to be able to see it. Just take the first step and keep the faith. Feel grateful in advance with the knowing of a mustard seed. Faith and gratitude from the heart can move mountains!
“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience.” – Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
Enjoy infinite blessings that feel like Love!
Posted by: Cheryl Healey on: February 28, 2012
My prior articles and classes on ADHD have presented information to parents looking for natural solutions for children who have already been diagnosed. In a recent discussion with a client of a sensitive child still in kindergarten, we discussed how to prevent such a label and set her child up for success prior to starting school.
Being a firm believer in serendipity, I felt other parents must be in that same boat. So this article will help you, as the parent of a sensitive child, learn the ins and outs of the ADHD label which is so commonly placed on sensitive or gifted children once they reach public school.
There are many puzzle pieces that can lead to lack of focus or hyperactivity in sensitive children and a possible misdiagnosis of ADHD. Knowledge and prevention are the best medicine!
1. The Race To The Top Program, like the No Child Left Behind Act (NCLB) before it, is test score driven. It demands that all children take specific tests and reach certain scores per grade level. The overall scores on these tests determine school funding. The schools with the highest test scores receive the most funding and so it goes down the line for the schools with the lowest ranking test scores providing the least funding for the school. Teachers’ salaries are also determined based on school funding and test scores. If the children do not perform well on the tests, their school could be shut down.
An auditory teaching style currently predominates. If your child is not an auditory learner, he/she may need extra attention to keep up. Given all the budget cuts on both federal and state levels, the students who do the best have parent and community volunteers to help out at school.
Note: If you don’t already know your child’s learning style, I would suggest you find out. There are many free learning style assessments on-line as well as many books on the subject. If your child is not an auditory learner, they may need additional help in their natural learning style to excel at school. Some home school assessments offer information to teach a child learning styles other than their own. If both you and your child know how he/she processes information, you will both be ahead of the curve and know what if any learning tools may be helpful.
2. Research by Tom Elder at theUniversityofMichiganpublished in the Journal of Health Economics in 2010 stated that nearly one million children in theUnited Statesare potentially misdiagnosed with ADHD. Children of a younger age than their classmates are often misdiagnosed with ADHD because of their level of maturity by comparison to older classmates.
Teachers judge a child in comparison to the other children in their same class in both behavior and ability. Teachers may not realize that any lag may be due to age differences however slight.
Note: This data is offered as information only should you need it.
3. Allergies are very common among sensitive children. Whether it’s an allergy to specific foods, dyes or other substances, it is quite common in today’s world. If your child shows focus or hyperactivity issues, leaky gut may be an issue in addition to allergies. Please find a DAN! doctor or a functional medicine doctor who make it a practice to find the root cause of symptoms. Supplementation is often needed as well to balance neurotransmitters in the brain. 80% of neurotransmitters are created in the small intestine, so it makes sense to check the GI tract before you allow your child to be placed on ADHD medication.
Note: If anyone suggests your child may have ADHD, please have them checked for leaky gut, allergies and neurotransmitter imbalances before you consider medication. Once these issues are healed, should subside. If some symptoms remain, toxins may, and usually are a factor as well. Do not attempt to remove toxins without the care of a trusted professional.
4. Unfortunately, we live in a very toxic world right now. Our food supply is sprayed to kill bugs, treated with preservatives or genetically modified; animals are given hormones or other chemicals; some foods are completely processed and lacking valuable nutrients. The body is a self-healing system in a perfect world. If the body has a build-up of toxins, its ability to naturally eliminate them may become impaired.
Note: According to Kenneth Bock, M.D. (a DAN! Doctor) and Cameron Stauth, authors of Healing the New Childhood Epidemics – Autism, ADHD, Asthma, and Allergies – The Groundbreaking Program for the 4-A Disorders, toxicity is a factor in all four conditions.
When using a detox product, please make sure to work with a doctor or trusted health care provider. Also, be sure that whatever detox product you use has a built-in chelator to ensure safe removal of toxins.
5. Since we are body, mind and Spirit beings, we each are complex and multi-faceted individuals. I have found in working with children, teens and adults that limiting beliefs can hinder one’s success. Limiting beliefs can exist consciously, unconsciously or as part of our collective societal agreements. Everyone’s self-esteem is based upon their beliefs or what one thinks is possible. Since thought always precedes emotion, upset emotions are a barometer for expectations a/k/a beliefs.
Note: If your child has emotional upsets, he/she may have a belief that does not serve them. Rather than tell your child “It’s OK.” or some other placating message, try asking them questions that begin with “how” or “what”. Children will benefit from being heard and working through what they are feeling. Listen for what they say AND what they don’t say and create a dialogue to reframe what might be a limiting belief. Remember though that they must come up with the “reframe” to create the greatest impact. If you find you are unable to help your child overcome emotional upsets through the coaching dialogue suggested above, please seek the help of a qualified professional.
I think I’ve given you enough to think about for now. If you would like additional information, please read the rest of the articles on this blog or visit www.thegiftofyou.com.
Enjoy infinite blessings!
Cheryl
Please Note: The information shared by Cheryl Healey is for educational and informational purposes only. You should continue to make any and all medical and mental health decisions with your licensed medical professionals. While health-related information may be shared, people seeking medical advice or assistance should contact a physician – preferably one who believes in a compliment of natural solutions. Always remember to trust your intuition.
Posted by: Cheryl Healey on: February 15, 2012
While I post many things to raise awareness so everyone is free to make informed choices, my goal is to promote healing and empowerment in the individual.
Please take a moment today to close your eyes and imagine yourself, your loved ones and the world in a ball of Divine healing white light. Feel Love inside of this light and take it into your heart and send it out to the world. I will do the same – often.
Please share this practice with those who may be interested.
Thank you!
Cheryl Healey
Posted by: Cheryl Healey on: December 1, 2011
On ABC World News last night, 11/30/11, Diane Sawyer reported on a study that shows that foster care children in this country are placed on many mind-altering drugs. There is now a group lobbying to help these children. Ms. Sawyer has also decided to investigate. My heart is so filled with gratitude as the awareness of what is going on with these children raises and enters the hearts of so many.
If you have read any of my previous posts, you know that I am here to help the sensitive children. These children have greater awareness and pick up on more than the average child. Since their sensitivities can be triggered by allergies, their focus and behaviors are often difficult to handle without discovery of the cause and education on natural solutions. For this reason, many of these children end up in foster care because some parents are unable to cope.
In the foster care system, drugs are mandated for these children. After a tragic suicide of a six year old boy in theFloridafoster care system a few years ago,Floridahas implemented some improvements. We still have a long way to go to help these children and their families.
Symptoms can be treated naturally once the root causes have been determined. Drugs are an easier option, but they do not fix the cause. As you will see from Ms. Sawyer’s report, they only mask some symptoms and more often than not create new symptoms for which more drugs are often prescribed. It is extremely dangerous to medicate a brain that has not yet fully formed. All drugs have side effects. We are taught that a pill is the preferred choice in our quick-fix society. As you will see from Ms. Sawyer’s report on the link below, it is not the safest.
Please take a moment to watch the video and read the article. Please forward it to anyone you know who may be interested in helping these children. They can’t help themselves. They are stuck in a system that does not serve them well.
Thank you Diane Sawyer and everyone involved in helping children in the foster care system and all sensitive children.
Posted by: Cheryl Healey on: November 29, 2011
What would it take…
What if…
What if…
What would happen if…
What if…
What would it take for you to expect the best? What if by expecting the best you help create it?
What if we all stopped blaming and started working together to choose loving and healthy solutions?
What if all it would take was one person at a time making the most healthy, loving and empowering decisions possible every day? What if each person worked to heal personal issues rather than project them onto others? When emotional wounds are healed, awareness and consciousness grows. When consciousness is raised, possibility expands. What if the number of people who do this grew to millions or greater? What would a world like this look like? What would a world like this FEEL like?
We are on the cusp of realizing the greatest potential for this planet. Disarm fear and doubt. Choose love and peace for everyone. Take inspired action. Expect the best! We really are all One.
“You must be the change you want to see in the world.” – Gandhi
Posted by: Cheryl Healey on: November 17, 2011
This article is about the future of the children. I am one of the 99%. We have all contributed to the current situation in America as we all collectively allowed it to happen. Many of us spent more money than we had, expecting “the good life” to last forever. In addition, we, the American people, accepted the fact that corporations and lobbyists influence politicians and government agencies to create and pass laws and regulations that do not serve the majority. We have also allowed our civil and constitutional rights to be compromised and violated by the elected officials and agencies we look to for “protection”.
It is human nature to dislike change. As long as each of our own little apple carts move along in a bearable fashion, each of us has been able to rationalize the decline of personal choices and freedom. We as a country have been manipulated by fear, misinformation and private and/or political agendas. People, including some in positions of power, are only told what those “running the show” want all of us to believe – whatever the show of the moment may be.
We all know that much of what we see on TV and in advertisements is slanted to persuade or manipulate. The American public accepts that also. We even enjoy comedy news programs that poke fun at all of this because we know it’s true but have felt helpless to effect positive change.
It would appear by the Occupy Movement and the election results on 11/8/11 that the American majority have had enough. It would also appear that those in power are pushing back in an attempt to dampen the spirit of the movement. I urge everyone to look at the big picture rather than short-sighted demands or setbacks. For example: Angela Davis, whom I respect, said “…we want free health care…” among other things in her recent speech. Is anything really free? How many Americans (including politicians) have read the health care bill? Have you taken the time to see what provisions are in it regarding children and the power that will be given to the schools and states regarding your children and your children’s children?
I will admit that I have not read the entire health care bill either. I have heard, however, that big pharma and insurance companies are on board with it. If that is true, it will probably benefit corporate profits more than those who are meant to be served by “free” health care.
Do not misunderstand me about corporations. I previously worked in corporate America and enjoyed it and the salary for quite some time until I decided to leave. Anyone who owns stock or mutual funds has their foot in the corporate profit waters. Again, I urge everyone to see the big picture. We are all Americans in this together regardless of the divisive percentage categories (99% and 1%). As many in this country have experienced, one can be thrust by circumstances into a different percentage category at any time – in either direction.
My focus has been and continues to be the current and future children of this country. If you have read any of my other articles, you know that I feel many children are being set up to fail. The American diet coupled with the current public school model based on the No Child Left Behind Act has resulted in epidemic numbers of ADHD diagnoses.
It is my opinion that the Occupy Movement must include the wellbeing of the children also. They are the future of this country. The rights of the children and every American are at risk at this pivotal time in history. I urge us all to read the health care bill before we blindly trust and back it. Read it and decide for yourself. Elected officials are here to serve the majority who put them in office and pay their salaries and benefits. Even appointed Supreme Court Justices are here to uphold our constitutional rights.
Civil and constitutional rights for everyone including all children are the true issues being masked by many smoke screens. Banking fees are small potatoes compared to what is really at stake now for every American.
Still on topic, I am very grateful and honor all of our veterans. They and their families are called on to make more sacrifices; endure more trauma and hardship and take more risks than any non-veteran can ever imagine. They are also forced to receive many toxic injections to ward off diseases that may occur in the countries to which they are sent.
Do you know how much money is spent on war every week by this country? Did you know that military spending was the only item not on the chopping block for review during the budget balancing sessions in congress? Why not bring our soldiers home and spend at least some of that money creating alternative sources of fuel? That would create many new jobs. Yes, it would take money away from the oil corporations and other companies that create war supplies. They would have the option like anyone else to become forward-thinking for the good of the planet. Who is benefitting by having American soldiers at war now?
The main thing I want you to take away from this article is that this country was founded by people similar to those in the Occupy Movement who saw the big picture of what was important. They looked at all the issues and decided that constitutional rights and a say in their government was essential to create the country and future they wanted. They didn’t have corporations back then – they had a ruling monarchy.
This is a very important time in history. The children and future generations depend on smart and heart-felt choices from everyone – at all levels. Think and act with heart. Remember to thank God for all the grace and blessings you receive every day. Even if it’s a tough day, find something about which to be grateful. Make it a habit to go around the dinner table and have everyone say at least one thing for which they are grateful every day. Envision positive and peaceful change because change is the only constant in life. Follow your own heart and do what you believe is right.
Lastly, I would like to share something filmmaker Michael Moore said on the Rachel Maddow show on MSNBC recently prior to the recent crackdown of the Occupy Movement. He urged the members of the Occupy Movement who were out there protesting to remain peaceful. Mr. Moore also said that if there is anyone in the crowd trying to incite violence, they may be undercover homeland security staff. Remain peaceful.
God bless America. God bless the world.
We are all one.
Posted by: Cheryl Healey on: September 16, 2011
Have you ever hesitated to move forward with a project or life change that on some level you knew was in line with who you really are and why you are here? If you have read any of my other articles, you know that a large part of my purpose is to raise awareness of natural solutions for the symptoms of a diagnosis of ADHD.
When we are here to illuminate the hearts and minds of others to alternative and healthier options for life, sometimes it takes a while for us to muster up the courage or for others to pay attention and embrace what we have to share. Dedication and a heart-felt commitment are needed to stay the course.
A tool I have listed on www.facebook.com/adhdchildren is a Success Journal. This is a wonderful way for children and adults to document daily experiences that create a feeling of joy and success. On days when you or your child are feeling a little less than successful, open up your very own Success Journal and allow yourself to be reminded of not only the accomplishments you have achieved so far, but also to relive the feelings those accomplishments created inside of you. Remember that it takes at least 21 days to create a habit, so make sure you and your child stick with the journal for optimum benefit.
If you or your child have a day when even the Success Journal may not give you the hug or push you may need, I recommend body movement. Not only does body movement and exercise create feel-good endorphins in the brain, but it may also give you a surprise gift from God or the Universe (whatever term you use). Here’s an example.
Nature always gets me connected to my Source. One evening recently I needed the expansiveness that nature provides. So I went for a very long walk near the water. I took some time to meditate, star gaze and just enjoy the breeze and the gifts of nature. On the walk back I still wasn’t quite yet in that feel-good place when I saw a little child in a stroller being pushed in my direction by his parents. This child lit up like a light bulb when he saw me, and he could not take his eyes off of me. I automatically smiled and waved at him. As I passed, he turned as much as he could in his stroller and continued to watch me with that huge smile and glow on his face.
While this may not seem significant to you or someone who wasn’t there, it felt like this child was looking at me with eyes of Divine Love. He absolutely lit up as if he knew me and was glad to see me. His look was one of which we do not typically use to look at ourselves. That experience felt like it was a Divine message to see the light inside of me as that child did and continue on with joy to do what I am here to do.
It was not a surprise that God would use a child to touch my heart since it is the children I am here to help but first must reach through the current mindset of their parents and society. I have had quite a few experiences like that in my life where children look at me in just that way. Not all children obviously, but those who are meant to remind me I suppose.
Children that young, especially sensitive or gifted children are still connected to the Source from which they came. They remember until they are conditioned to forget and conform.
My message to you is to look at yourself with that same kind of love, joy and recognition that I received from that young Soul. Teach your child/ren to do the same. Also be sure to pay attention to any messages that serendipitously come your way and touch your heart. It might just be the next entry in your Success Journal.
See and shine the light of you and make it fun!
Enjoy infinite blessings every moment of every day!
Posted by: Cheryl Healey on: July 24, 2011
Has it been suggested to you that your child may have ADHD? Has your child already been diagnosed with ADHD? Are you looking for natural solutions because on some level you know drugs are only a band-aid and do not address the root causes of symptoms? Do you work with ADHD children? Whatever your reason for reading this book, buckle your seatbelt and get ready to unhook from the current mainstream ideas about ADHD and these trail-blazing children!
It is now estimated that somewhere between 5-10% of children ages 6-17 have been diagnosed with ADHD. According to statistics, an estimated 2.5 million or more children are on drugs to manage the symptoms attributed to ADHD. Why are the numbers so high and constantly increasing? Why do so many children have a brain that is different and labeled as ADHD? Have you ever asked these questions?
With 5-10% of the population of our youth diagnosed with an ADHD brain, it has reached critical mass or the tipping point. In his book, The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference, Malcolm Gladwell states that a tipping point is “the level at which the momentum for change becomes unstoppable.”
Since the time of the caveman, the human brain has gone through many stages of progression. Man and nature are hard-wired to evolve. It would be unwise to believe we have already reached the pinnacle of evolution in our current state.
I have two important messages to share about ADHD. In a nutshell,
According to Charles Darwin’s Theory of Natural Selection, natural selection is nature’s way of preserving new traits in a species that at first may seem like genetic mutations. While this is just a theory, I have come to truly believe that the ADHD brain is the next evolution of the human mind. I believe that they are extra sensitive in many ways and utilize a larger percentage of their brain capacity. That is why the numbers keep increasing around the world. Sensitive children with the capability to utilize more of their mind and intuitive gifts are here to lead us into the new age we are entering. This new brain – new mind, naturally has the traits and abilities required to help humans thrive in the world we have all created. These children, often labeled as ADHD, are becoming the new normal.
Just like everyone, these children hold within them a life purpose that is needed to help the evolution of the planet. Whether it is in a small or large way, they are a gift and so is the contribution they are here to offer.
In his book entitled The New Brain (Rodale Books, September, 2004), Richard Restak, M.D., a neurosurgeon and popular science writer about the brain, makes a case of a society creating a need for ADHD traits and that perhaps ADHD should no longer be considered a disorder.
I have some questions for you:
If you answered yes to any or all of the questions above, you are not alone. Everyone without a diagnosis of ADHD has sensed the need for what this brain can do innately. As a society, or perhaps world-wide, we have created the need for traits and habits that are helping us keep up with the modern way of life we have created.
Multi-tasking has been adopted as a way of coping to try to keep up with all that is going on around us and in our busy lives. By multi-tasking, an entire population is trying to adapt and do what the ADHD brain does naturally. However, medical studies now tell us that multi-tasking creates damage in the human brain.
We live in a time when everything is moving very quickly. Information is multiplying at a rate of approximately 66% per year as of studies done a few years ago. Some estimates state that by 2013 information on the Internet will double approximately every 72 hours. Change is the only constant.
Have you ever watched a news program with multiple screen shots projected at once? Which one should your mind focus upon? You have probably viewed at some point a television program with stock market quotes moving along the bottom of the screen like a conveyor belt. Even if you try to focus on the person speaking, your eyes and mind wander to the bottom of the page from time to time.
Are you doing the work of more than one person? Are you a wife, mother, entrepreneur, housekeeper, etc.? Are you a husband, father, business professional and honey-do-man? How many hats can one person wear successfully and still enjoy a harmonious lifestyle?
We are also a society hooked on the “quick fix”, no doubt birthed out of the same need to keep up with the ever-increasing speed of life and not lose any ground. As a population we want food, banking and dry cleaning in the drive-through lane and a pill to make everything better immediately. Depending on the person, the “pill” does not have to be a drug. It can be food, exercise or even addictive or non-health enhancing behaviors that get you through the day. There are a plethora of coping mechanisms available for modern-day stress relief.
Medical research now states that stress is the number one cause of disease. The unfortunate catch 22 we have created for ourselves in this society is that the majority of stress relievers to which we turn are often also killers – or at least not life enhancing solutions. So I ask you, if something you put in your body does not enhance your life and vitality, do you ever stop and wonder what it is actually doing to the only body you have in this lifetime?
Children learn by example. The “do what I say and not what I do” model doesn’t work and it never did. The way parents (or other childhood mentors) handle life and day-to-day issues are the way children learn to view and deal with life as well. It is very common that a child either follows the mold set by one parent or does the exact opposite. If you look back on your childhood, you have probably done the same thing.
We all look at life through our own unique way of thinking and believing. We are so entrenched in our individual worldview that we think it is just how things are in life. It is a case of not seeing the forest because you are in the thick of the trees.
The forest I’m speaking about is our current way of treating sensitive children with symptoms identified as ADHD. It starts with public schools requiring every child to fit into a mold and excel under the model created by the No Child Left Behind Act (NCLB). Fitting the mold means getting good test scores which determines the amount of funding the school receives which then determines teacher performance reviews.
If a child is disruptive in school or isn’t getting good grades, parents are essentially given an ultimatum to address their child’s behavior and/or grades so the system keeps running. There may have been a time when it was normal for teachers to have the extra time to spend with students. However, all the budget cuts and reduced staffing has taken a toll on everyone. With over 2.5 million children on drugs prescribed by doctors to control the symptoms of ADHD, many feel this is the right and normal thing to do. I also know that the decision to drug a child is typically something over which most parents deeply struggle.
There is currently a big referral network that exists between the No Child Left Behind Act, schools, doctors, drug companies, food manufacturers and perhaps even the Food and Drug Administration. This model is not healthy nor does it serve these sensitive children. I believe that when everyone is educated with the bigger picture and healthier solutions, smarter choices will be made and changes in the system will occur. If you’ve ever seen the cartoon The Jetsons, you may remember George Jetson walking the dog on a treadmill that has gone wild and yelling to his wife: “Jane, stop this crazy thing!”
That is the point I know we have reached in the current treatment model. It is now time for the tide to turn in favor of these wonderful children. ADHD is not a disorder. It is just a case of improper diet, toxicity, a need for focus training and perhaps some emotional healing. Everyone has been doing the best they know how to do under the current systems. When we all know more, we can do things differently and choose healthier solutions. I believe it is essential that ADHD symptoms be treated naturally whenever possible to stabilize the brain healthfully and provide the best possible life for the children. There are proven solutions that have worked for over 40 years. I will share them with you in subsequent chapters.
Dr. Daniel Amen has written many books, one about ADHD in particular. He uses SPEC scans to diagnose ADHD. In his book entitled, Healing ADD: The Breakthrough Program That Allows You to See and Heal the 6 Types of ADD, Dr. Amen recommends natural solutions as the first choice. Protocols suggested include proper diet, exercise, appropriate supplementation and coaching.
I am not convinced there are only six types of ADHD. I feel that each child is unique and so are the causes of their symptoms. While the six standard protocols recommended by Dr. Amen may work for the majority, those that do not respond positively and are guided toward medication obviously do not fit those pre-defined molds.
EEG scans are also used as a diagnostic tool by some health care providers for ADHD. EEG is also recommended as a biofeedback treatment for ADHD by some professionals. Electroencephalography (EEG) test results report certain facets of brain electrical function and processing, such as how electrically active various brain regions are and how responsive they may be to stimuli or during cognitive tasks.
My intention and wish for you by writing this book is to bring you out of the forest of current thinking and into the clear meadow so you can look at things with a broader perspective. In the end you will make the choice that you feel is best for your child and your family. However, I am convinced that after you know how to help your child naturally, that will be the only choice that will make sense for your child’s life and wellbeing.
Make no mistake about it. Society has demanded and the process of natural selection has responded with a new “physical advantage” that is obviously meant to equip us for success in the future. The ADHD brain is here to stay. Let’s treat it right!
Note: I use the words brain and mind interchangeably in this book. Since the brain can be photographed and an ADHD brain looks “abnormal” before natural healing and “normal” afterward, it would not appear that anything is different between an ADHD brain once healed of symptoms and a non-ADHD brain. However, the abilities of sensitive individuals labeled with ADHD are different than non-sensitive/ADHD people. I will explain more about this in a subsequent chapter.
From a scientific perspective, the cause of ADHD has been investigated without a definitive answer. Many theories abound from genetics and heredity, epigenetics, head trauma or toxic exposure. While the ADHD mind is the new “brain” that can handle the speed of life as we have now come to know it, the symptoms attributed to ADHD, I believe, are caused by the human epigenome.
Scientists in the field of epigenetics have found that we are what we eat and so are our children and their children. Epigenetics is the study of the epigenome. Epigenetics focuses on heritable changes that occur but do not alter DNA or the genome. DNA is the main component of chromosomes and is the material that transfers genetic characteristics. The genome is a full set of chromosomes; all the inheritable traits. Said differently, epigenetics is the study of that which can be inherited but does not come from DNA or the genome. Meaning something other than genetics is the cause.
Epigenetics literally translates to “above the genome”. Above the genome is a layer of chemicals (histones and methyl groups) that attach to the genome and change the way it expresses in the body. The epigenome tells the genome what kind of cells to be – essentially when to work, how to work and how much work to do.
Everyone has an epigenome and it tells cells how to operate. An issue arises when the chemicals in the epigenome restrict or change the healthy function of cells in the genome. A “problematic” epigenome can be inherited; created during critical life changes such as puberty, pregnancy; life traumas; or develop through one’s lifestyle (toxic foods, toxic exposure, etc.), and prolonged unhealthy emotions such as anxiety. The good news is that the epigenome can be changed naturally!
Think of the genome as the hardware of your human computer. The epigenome attaches to your genome and acts as software telling your cells what to do. The epigenome can tell a cell to be healthy or become abnormal and trigger reactions to certain foods, substances or create disease.
Scientists in the field of epigenetics have proven that food has successfully altered the epigenome in obese mice and their offspring. DukeUniversity’s Randy Jirtle summed up this study for NOVA by saying that “we’ve got to get people thinking more about what they do. They have a responsibility for their epigenome. Their genome they inherit. Their epigenome, they potentially can alter, and particularly that of their children. That brings in responsibility, but it also brings in hope. You’re not necessarily stuck with this. You can alter this.”
Epigenetics is still a relatively new field. Drug companies are already working to create drugs to alter the epigenome for many diseases. What side effects they may produce, only time will tell. In addition, this still leaves the contributing factors of managing emotions and one’s way of dealing with life issues. For ADHD, my money is on integrated natural solutions for children since they have worked for over 40 years and the science of epigenetics has proven that the epigenome can be healed with proper nutrients.
Did you know that Albert Einstein had ADHD and Aspergers? He didn’t speak until around the age of six. One of Albert’s elementary school teachers told his father that “It doesn’t matter what he does because he will never amount to anything.” Do multiple diagnoses and low expectations from those who do not understand sound familiar? The good news is that we all know the story and contributions of Albert Einstein. Every sensitive child diagnosed with ADHD can reach their optimum potential if we choose to view this as an opportunity to heal an unhealthy epigenome naturally rather than as a disorder.
While sensitive children with the ADHD brain are ushering in the new, they have arrived at a seemingly precarious time on Earth. Our food supplies are no longer pure and usually filled with additives and poisonous chemicals and preservatives. Corn in some form is fed to livestock and placed in the majority of all processed foods. Corn metabolizes as sugar. This is great for the weight loss industry, but it is creating an epidemic of diabetes for which drugs are often required.
The soil is depleted of nutrients required to keep the human body healthy and vital, and it is also sprayed with pesticides. Big business meat producers feed hormones and other chemicals to livestock to produce larger animals in a shorter amount of time. This enables them to go to market quicker. All of this is called “food” which you and your children ingest daily.
Since I am a huge animal lover, I must briefly mention here the heartbreakingly inhumane way animals are raised by big and centralized meat producers. It has become very easy for society to turn a blind eye to many things as long as our individual piece of the pie and our comfort zones remain undisturbed. I believe the term “don’t ask, don’t tell” was coined to describe the way animals are treated in these environments.
Supplements have become a common and very necessary staple. Fast and processed foods are the most affordable and widely used but often metabolize quickly, typically have a high glycemic count and little to no nutritional value filled with toxins and preservatives of some sort. Sugar which is so commonly added in some form to so many foods and beverages is a favorite of almost everyone. Studies have even shown that artificial sweeteners can have harmful effects on body and brain health. Now vaccines given to children and teens have created adverse reactions in many cases.
In the name of progress and convenience, we as a society have demanded, and big business has responded with quicker easier ways to live life in the fast lane. You are a member of the most powerful lobby group in the world – the American consumer! If you, I and each of us spend our money on that which is life enhancing, companies will have no alternative but to meet the demands of the buying public. You’ve got the POWER!
ADHD children are very sensitive individuals if you haven’t already noticed. I believe they are hard-wired, because of their brain, to excel at their purpose – that which they came here to accomplish. It certainly worked out that way for Albert Einstein and many other notable individuals.
If you talk with parents of ADHD children who are now grown and in their twenties, you will hear many stories of their children excelling in some particular area. All ADHD children, like each of us, have at least one area in which their talents shine.
There are also, unfortunately, many darker stories and statistics of ADHD children who became addicted to harder drugs and had rougher lives. Many of these children have ended up in the foster care system as their parents are unable to cope or handle the challenges. According to ADHD news, 70% of individuals in theU.S.prison system have ADHD.
If you are reading this book to decide whether or not drugs are the answer for your child with a diagnosis of ADHD, this is where you get to decide if this is a challenge or an opportunity. You are on the cutting edge of helping to choose the direction of history, one child at a time.
You might be thinking: “Wait a minute. I just want something to help my child have a normal, happy and successful life. I’m too busy and not interested in taking on a cause or becoming part of history in the making.”
Well, I understand your point. Stepping up to write this book and share this information was not initially what I had planned for my life either. However, it is a large part of my life purpose and I am passionate about helping these kids and the animals we consume. I’m not asking you to go to rallies for ADHD wellness with me. I am asking you to make informed and healthy choices for your child and your family as best you are able. It is easy to do with a few minor changes. I will lay it all out like a roadmap in this book and make it as easy as possible. I want you to succeed, and I want your child to be happy, healthy and successful too! I am on your team!
Imagine what the mainstream thought in 1492 of Christopher Columbus setting sail for new lands on a flat Earth.
Put yourself in the mindset of people during the time of Nicholas Copernicus circa 1543 when he told everyone the Earth revolved around the sun and not the other way around.
Ken Olson, President of Digital Equipment Corporation said in 1977 that “There is no need for any individual to have a computer in their home.”
What may seem like radically new ideas to a current population could very well be that which leads them boldly and successfully into a brighter future filled with tremendous new opportunities – and new careers not yet imagined!
What would have happened ifColumbushad not discoveredAmerica? Would someone else have discovered it eventually? How would things have been different if it happened later than 1492? What opportunities would have been lost?
What would have happened for Digital Equipment Corporation and its employees had Ken Olson jumped on the vision and opportunity to create personal computers?
Is this a time of challenge or opportunity? Perhaps both, but ultimately you must choose. I can tell you from personal experience that choosing a positive attitude makes life so much easier and joyful.
Since the enhanced abilities of the children coming in point to the next evolution of the species and certain foods, chemicals and toxins are typically the cause of symptoms, how will you choose to treat your child? Will you take the seemingly “quick fix” road of drugs; the road of all natural alternatives and organic food when possible; or some middle path that combines the two as best you can for your family unit? One thing is certain – it is in the highest interest of your child and future generations – your grandchildren, to carefully weigh the options before you decide.
So many parents of children with ADHD beat themselves up and wonder what if anything went “wrong” to create this condition. Good news! You are a trailblazer ushering in a sensitive child with the brain of the future! Your Soul chose your journey. You are strong enough to have contracted to parent a cutting-edge history-making new-brain child with a potential such as Albert Einstein. How cool is that?
Your child, all ADHD children, have come in at a time they knew at a Soul level would be interesting and transitional. They have a strong Soul just like you do. You make a good team!
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If you are interested in reading more of this groundbreaking new book filled with cutting-edge information, please send me an e-mail at Cheryl@thegiftofyou.com
It is currently available as an e-book for $9.95. Below is the Table of Contents.
ADHD: A New Mind for a New World
Contents
Gratitude
Dedication
Your Invitation: A Walk with Destiny!
Introduction
Section 1 Understanding the Big Picture
1 A New Mind for a New Age
2 The Spiritual Component
3 The Current Mindset and Treatment Model
4 It is NOT All About Grades!
5 Every Child is Unique – The Myth of Fitting In
6 A Chapter About Healing
Section 2 YOU HAVE CHOICES Every Step of the Way!
1 Viewpoint
2 Know your rights before you seek help.
3 It’s been suggested my child might have ADHD.
4 I don’t have time or money to deal with a natural solution.
5 My child is on meds for ADHD and now depression has set in. What do I do?
6 My child is on meds, but I want to transition to a natural solution. What do I do?
Section 3 ADHD Wellness Program
1 Introduction
2 Allergies
3 Leaky Gut
4 Food – It’s Either Medicine or Poison
5 Supplementation is essential!
6 Get the toxins out!
7 Exercise – Your New Best Friend!
8 Tools for Focus, Relaxation and Empowerment
9 Environment and Possibility
10 We Are What We Believe
11 Self-Esteem
12 Coaching: The Fast Track to Success
13 Summary Checklist
Section 4 School Success Strategies
1 Why Learning Style Matters
2 Creating Win-Win Environments
3 Homework Habits Revisited
Section 5 Vision for the Future
1 A New School Model
2 The Movement
A Blessing
About the Author
References and Resources
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Contact Information:
Cheryl Healey
Posted by: Cheryl Healey on: June 18, 2011
For many people, the American dream means getting married, having children, and living happily ever after. The day-to-day doesn’t always feel like happily ever after though does it?
Are you the parent of a sensitive child?
Does your sensitive child:
* Care about other people’s feelings as much or more than their own
* Sense when something is wrong
* Take many things personally that weren’t meant to be personal
* Feel emotional conflicts within the home are their issues to fix
* Withdraw or hide when there is an argument or harsh words
* Have allergies to food or other substances
* Seem wise beyond their years in some ways
If you could spend an hour one morning learning how to better understand your sensitive child, help them with their gifts and create family harmony, would that be worth something to you?
Since every child truly is a unique work of art, the way a child displays their sensitivity depends on certain factors. Some of those factors include:
* What your child believes about themselves
* What they believe about their safety at home and in their outer world
* Understanding their own sensitivity and intuitive gifts
* Learning to trust it is OK and safe to be themselves
* Environments
We all have our own way of viewing and interpreting life and everything that happens around us. So does your sensitive child. With heightened gifts, they can sometimes feel what other people feel and mistake those feelings for their own.
Has your child been give a label of ADHD? Sometimes that happens.
Is it difficult for you sometimes to keep the faith that everything will work out well?
If you could spend one hour getting help with these issues, would that be time well spent?
Sign up for this webinar if you are ready to:
* Unhook from the collective mindset about sensitive children
* Tap into your inner guidance and help your child do the same
* Understand the bigger picture
* Think out of the box
* Create new awareness and opportunities
* Learn tools to help move forward in faith and confidence
You will receive a lot of great information based on my training, research and experience. However, I know you may be struggling with very specific issues. So, I will provide time toward the end of the webinar to answer your questions!
When: Thursday, June 23, 2011 at 10:00 a.m.–11:00 a.m. ET
Where: Internet (To hear the audio you will need to dial in via
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Cost: $10.00
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Learn how you and your child may create a more harmonious path embracing sensitivity as the gift it is meant to be.
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